Tuesday, May 31, 2011


As i sit here on my couch with all the windows open... i just sit and listen. I hear the birds, others across the street, and my own voice in my head. These moments i take the time to reflect on my life. My successes and my failures. The things in my life that are wonderful and those that i need to work on. I enjoy these moments. They happen about once a week or so and i love every minute of them. Whether you look at your failures and figure out how you can make them better or you reflect on the wonderful things you have that are positive...its still an amazing moment before you start your day. Take time for yourself. Take those minutes to encourage yourself and the day ahead of you. Today is the start of an amazing day! Lets live it!

Wednesday, May 25, 2011


Are you really that fake? So fake that everyone who talks to you laughs when you walk away. Do you not know that people don't like you? You must be so self absorbed that you cant see that you are not a pleasure to be around? I wish people would just be real. Why be fake? Why be something you're not? Why try to be someone else or have someone elses experiences. BE YOURSELF! At least you would be seen as real.
Oh and while I'm complaining...I'm tired of takers. People who take, take, take and never give or if they do its only because they know they are takers and feel its the right thing to do to give a bit. I just rather you be on your way and not ask  since its only a courtesy care. I'm over it and you.

Thursday, May 19, 2011


You know you cannot change someone even if you wanted to.  We are all made so differently. We all have positives and negatives to us. NO ONE IS EVEN CLOSE TO PERFECTION!  We try our hardest to get someone to see from our opinion or change them to what you know and are. We all need to learn to accept and understand that no matter how hard we try, people will only change if they wish and if its their idea to do so. Theirs nothing wrong with setting a standard in which to live by but understand its not others standard. ITS YOUR OWN! I do believe that if we can realize that we are not perfect or right all the time or that what we think is the best choice and open our minds to someone else i really do believe that that teaches you to grow. Not only in love relationships like boyfriends, girlfriends, marriage partners.....I'm talking about all people. You all add to my life and i add to yours. Whether not you accept that or not its reality. I'm all for saying...if you don't like me for who i am than go away, but remember this...are you "go away" material. As Ice Cube would say...."Check yourself before you wreck yourself".

Friday, May 13, 2011


Ever feel a bit hazy. Like you just feel like you aimlessly wondering around in fog trying to find your way? Im tired of just wondering around. Somebody get me a fan!

Sunday, May 8, 2011


I've been pondering today. I think that the word Princess, in reference to a term of endearment, should be used a bit more often. Not in the spoiled brat sense but as a state of mind. My definition of Princess is... feeling important, to be set apart from others, someone who deserves to feel special every single day. What woman in their right mind doesnt want that!? I know i do! So i;ve decided to call myself Princess Tonya every day when i look in the mirror...i wonder if i just started announcing it to people when i enter the room it will catch on! HAHAHAHA Just messin. Honestly though it does sound like a great feeling to have. Even if its not being called princess but just receiving that feeling i think we as women should experience that often!

Tuesday, May 3, 2011


Today was a day that i had to put my guard up and put my boundaries into action. I encountered a person who i had to place into an outer ring of boundaries. And wanna know something...it didnt hurt. It was easy. BIG RED FLAG and i recognized it and placed them before i was super invested. I am very proud of myself today. HIGH FIVE TONYA! LOL